“Sometimes the hardest part of growing up isn’t what happened to you – it’s what you had to carry alone.”
Growing up, I lived with someone who struggled with mental health, so I understand what it’s like to live in that kind of environment.
The ups and downs they experience reflect on you and your life, no matter what age you are, which can mean their ability to support or help you is limited, and sometimes just not there at all.
We can be left in limbo, not knowing where we are. Sometimes we are fed thoughts and feelings that may not be true; rather, they are just how someone else is reacting to a situation in the moment, and probably have nothing to do with us at all. Nonetheless, it is all too real, and this constant drip feed of others’ thoughts and feelings starts to shape how we see ourselves and our abilities.
You may have experienced trauma, grief, overwhelm, or the feeling of being invisible. These feelings can take many forms and are often our brain’s way of protecting us. Our brains try a protective strategy once, and if it succeeds, they repeat it until they’re retrained.
Unraveling limiting beliefs and thoughts – those imposed by others and by ourselves – is important. You don’t need to relive these patterns again and again. Letting go of emotional attachments to what has been said or done helps you move forward. If these patterns are deeply embedded, however, it can be difficult to do this.
It’s no surprise that we often find this hard to do on our own. We rarely take ourselves to the place that makes us cry. But with someone beside you, holding space and supporting you, it is possible.
I can support you in finding your way through this.
Together, we can reframe thoughts and feelings tied to past experiences. These memories may still influence how you respond now, just as you did when you were younger (because you didn’t know any different then).
Now, we can change that. A simple tapping tip is to tap or rub the inside of your wrist, then breathe deeply and slowly, in and out: in, to the count of 4, then out to the count of 8. This calms the brain and can be done almost anywhere.
Once you feel calmer, you can view your situation more calmly. And people will respond to you more calmly. Do it for as long as it takes for your shoulders to drop!!!
Breath in – Breath out
If this resonates with you, don’t wait. Please reach out for a free chat today. I’d love to hear how I might support you.
